Maze-ing Maze 231
Maze-ing Maze 231
Maze 231: Wow what a day. Or past few. On Sunday my son had a game and they won and he had two goals. I was very happy for him and his progress so far. unfortunately we had an incident. I congratulated one of the boys on their performance in regards to his play against the other teams best player. He said thanks and said that he called the kid a brownie. The player was interracial or Black. His father was standing right by him and said nothing.
Shocked at his statement and fathers silence I walked off to decide what to do. I decided to wait until after Monday nights practice to see if they would apologize. When it didn’t happen today I decided to email the team. I’m a locker room parent and have had a few issues with cussing and what have you. In the email I discussed the situation but left out names.
The father responded by email to the entire team and explained that his son meant he called the player a brownie because he was good and so are brownies. And that he said nothing because he didn’t hear it and was too tired from a double shift. Knowing kids this sounded like a quick oh shit I got caught answer. And in my opinion so was the fathers statement that he didn’t hear it. Regardless I thanked him for at least discussing why this comment would be offensive.
I can honestly say that I don’t think that the kid or his father are racist. But my son being the only Black player shouldn’t have to be exposed to these types of comments. I was hoping that I could air it out without the player being exposed to the team but his father let everyone know. A few of the other parents responded in complete disgust and really laid into the situation.
As I have said in the past that I think that children 9-10 years should be accountable for their behavior. The father mentioned that he didn’t believe that his son wasn’t old enough to understand being PC and what have you. I think that’s total b.s. and feel that he’s not holding his son accountable. Kids make fun of each other from an earlier age than 9 and 10 and definitely know what they are saying.
The sad thing about this is that it’s just a small reminder of how society still is and something that I should prepare my sons for. I realize that now more than in the past situations tend to be more ignorance than violence. But in a dangerous sport like hockey things can easily get out of hand especially when names are being thrown around. My goal is that we as a team learn from this situation. Maybe this will help our teams families open up discussion about racism or comments of how we should treat others.
I know that in the future I will work to put my initial reactions in check and maybe seek to clarify versus just walking off. Because although I didn’t want to get into it with a 10-year-old and his father, clarity at the time could have cleared it up. I don’t know just another MAZE life has thrown my way with several solutions.